1. Happiness is where you are now, or nowhere at all
It's not a new relationship, it's not a new job, it's not a complicated goal, and it's not new care.Until you give up on the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.
2. Quitting is for winners
Contrary to popular opinion, quitting is for winners.
Knowing when to quit, change direction, leave a toxic situation, demand more from life, give up on something that is not working and move on, is a very important skill that people who win at life all seem to have.
But don't quit because it's hard. Quit because it sucks.
3. If really they wanted to, they would.
If you apply pressure, they will do what you want them to.
If you take the pressure off, you will see what they'd rather do.
Never waste your life fighting for what someone would rather do.
Let them go. Move on. Do better.
4. Taking no risk is the biggest risk.
You have to risk failure to succeed.
You have to risk rejection to be accepted.
You have to risk heartbreak to love.
If you're always avoiding risk, you are risking missing out on life.
5. Call yourself out.
The most common reason why people keep making the same mistake is that their insecure ego prevents them from taking responsibility for their own bullshit, their own toxic traits, and their own mistakes.
You have to call yourself out.
Calling yourself out means you care more about your future, your progress, and your happiness, than just protecting your ego.
6. Closure is your choice.
The closure is not an apology, justice, or answer. That's insecurity.
If the situation made you feel awful, seeking closure by reopening it is insanity.
Closure is not something they can give you. Closure is moving on. The closure is your choice.
7. If you are happy alone, you'll be happier together.
There is no type of affection that can fill the void in a person who doesn't love themselves already.
There is no independence in dependency. There is personal security in attaching yourself to a secure person.
Until you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you won't make healthy decisions about someone else.
8. It is not your job to fix damaged people.
Your responsibility to help someone will never outweigh their responsibility to help themselves.
But, it's worth asking yourself why you resonated so strongly with someone that so desperately needed fixing in the first place.
Often, our own toxic romantic and non-romantic attachments tell a story about an issue we have within ourselves.